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Next, I wonder if you have any idea what, if anything, he might be interested in trying. And not to slag your personal tastes or anything, but showering together and bubble baths are not sex acts; they're hygiene acts, and rather femmy ones at that. Nice enough as far as they go, but I'm not surprised he wasn't overcome with passion at the mere idea of sharing a moisturizing lilac-hibiscus bath bomb with you. The only thing on your list I see as having any serious hotcha-hotcha potential is the porn, which you are shying away from. I have no doubt that you've seen something icky, but there's so much choice out there that I hate to see you shrug off the entire category without even taking a peek at the reviews on sex toy sites like Blowfish and Good Vibrations. Hardworking lesbians were paid inadequate wages to watch and review all that stuff! They're bound to have seen something that both you and your husband would find acceptable. I notice that you didn't say he finds porn distasteful, just that you have, in the past. Your concern that you might be turned on while he isn't well, if that isn't a bridge to cross when you get there I don't know what is.

I don't, by the way, recommend just swapping out his Sopranos DVDs for Driving Miss Daisy Crazy II without warning. You are not trying to trick him into an accidental resurgence of passion. Here's what I suggest: You didn't specify “the ‘usual’ time and location," but you did say you have one. If it isn't earlyish in the morning, in bed, try that. Few men, even busy, tired men, will turn down a roll in the hay if all it takes to get one is rolling over. If it works, you can talk later, emphasizing not the part about how unsatisfied and neglected you've been feeling, but how nice it was to rekindle things all accidental-like this morning what fun! And damned if it didn't leave you feeling a bit frisky. Would he like, perhaps, a little blow job? Or how about you set aside Friday evening to watch some of these prevetted, guaranteed nondisgusting, and yet oddly stimuutf8g DVDs you rented? I don't expect this to work in the absence of an afterglow or some reasonable facsimile thereof, so strike while the iron is, if not exactly hot, at least still plugged in.

Love,
Andrea

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