Sexual evolution - Page 2 says so long -- and thanks for all the fish


Gender: From where I sit (in San Francisco) gender's trans(oh, ha)formation from a mostly scientific term most famous for having to be distinguished from "sex" while talking about the results of ultrasounds to a continuum, a conversation, and a community is hyoooge. I do not foresee the end of binary gender as a basic human sorting tool, if for no other reason than that most people do fall into one category or the other. But the new ways we are discussing gender as an option, a performance, and a journey will not be leaving us any time soon. And so much the richer for us.

I wanted to talk about hooking-up versus dating. Women not having periods. Vajazzling (OK, not really). The mainstreaming of S/M. I gotta go. But I'll be around in the dark. Wherever there's a kid wondering if people really do that with gerbils, I'll be there. Wherever there's some guy wondering if he can talk his girlfriend into a threesome, I'll be there.



New site coming soon. I'll let you know.



Reading your column in the SFBG has been a weekly event for me since I new it was around. It really feels like the end of an era now. :(((

It is wild to think how much sex has changed in this time. I remember being radical, and now I'm practically mainstream. Most of it has been good, but the conservative backlash against all of this has been intense and oftentimes vicious. It would be nice if so many weren't so personally threatened by what others were doing in bed.

Ah well... Can't wait to see your new website!

Posted by Jessica Rabbit on Apr. 27, 2011 @ 9:18 am

You'll be missed. So so so very much.

Posted by Patricia on Apr. 27, 2011 @ 9:22 am

Why not Ask Isadora?

Posted by marcos on Apr. 27, 2011 @ 10:38 am

Thank you so much for all the advice you've given us over the years! I'll miss your column. All the best.

Posted by Guest on Apr. 28, 2011 @ 4:59 am

I've enjoyed your column since finding it in about 2000 or thereabouts.

Bless you, Andrea Nemerson; it was a great ride.

the bradguy

Posted by the bradguy on May. 15, 2011 @ 7:03 am

Oh honey, so sorry to see you go. I spent most of my office monkey career looking forward to Guardian day so I could read the sex column during my morning break, hoping for something that hit my buttons so I could retire to the bathroom with a head full of other people's stories.

I hope you don't mind, but sometimes sex advice is the best porn of all.

Posted by Guest on Jun. 12, 2011 @ 6:32 am

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