Gnarly: Joseph Gordon-Levitt in Hesher.

PHOTO BY MERRICK MORTON

Coming to terms with Hesher's presence becomes a lot like going through Elisabeth Kübler-Ross' five stages of grief: there's the denial that he's taken over the living-room TV and rejiggered the cable to get a free porn channel; the anger that he's set fire to your enemy's hot rod and left you at the scene of the crime; and finally the acceptance that there's no good, right, or unmessy way to say goodbye — even if farewell means a beer-soaked, profanity-laced eulogy and walking the coffin past the strip mall. 

HESHER opens Fri/13 in Bay Area theaters.