SEX ISSUE: The mastermind behind Kink.com's "Wired Pussy" and "Public Disgrace" sites finds power in perversion
SEX ISSUE 2011 I saw Donna Dolore for the first time at a Hard French queer soul dance party at El Rio. I remember because she took my drink so authoritatively that I had no choice but to be okay with it. She sipped it, handed it back, and strode away. Can I get a thank you? Throughout the whole, sloppy afternoon, I noticed it was kind of her theme.
But no one seemed to care. Part of it was obvious: Dolore is a Sophia Loren with wider eyes, maybe a little taller, with the same generous tendencies towards sharing glimpses of the bust line. Only — I reflected, shortly before falling back into cheap-beer-and-go-go-dancer melee — that attitude. Who the hell is this woman?
Weeks later, I'm telling her the story in person in the cavernous break room at Kink.com's headquarters in the San Francisco Armory (everything at the Armory is cavernous). It turns out that Dolore is in fact, a pretty big deal. Just ask her legions of heavy-breathing fans who know her as Princess Donna, the Kink.com director and star queer dominatrix.
"Oh my gosh, I did that?" At the office from where she plans shoots for the three Kink websites she heads, Dolore is a less formidable figure. She's not wearing any makeup. Her black outfit makes her look like she's about to take off for a light jog around the Mission.
But she might just be being coy. After all, I'd stalked her up good before our appointment and had come across this gem in a video interview she did a few years back: "I'm pretty true to form — Princess Donna acts a lot like I do."
Dolore double majored at New York University, perfectly enough, in gender and sexuality studies and photography. She became a stripper while at school, and then on a tip from a coworker, got into professional BDSM shoots. Although she had been to some BDSM play parties, the work was the first time she'd ever been tied up.
"I was immediately into the challenge of being in a really stressful position — being flogged or caned, total sensory overload," she remembers. "I would leave a shoot feeling really invigorated, a stronger person. It made me want to see what my body was capable of."
Nowadays, Princess Donna sits — utterly sexily, usually in a short skirt and fuck-me heels — atop the Internet BDSM porn puppy pile.
At Kink she is the mind behind no less than three sites. For "Public Disgrace," Dolore makes trips around the world to supervise the stripping-down, feeling-up, and penetration of beautiful women in town squares and busy bars. On "Wired Pussy," she plays with electrical equipment, inducing screaming orgasms in her female partners.
In her latest endeavor, "Bound Gang Bang," Dolore supervises teams of horny men and one or two women in fantasy-type shoots: high school nerds get their revenge on the bitchy mean girls, a prison warden drops her key and winds up giving head to inmates through a chain link fence. She has guest-starred in many of Kink's different sites, usually as a top, sometimes as a bottom.
"I get stressed out because we have so much content to produce," says Dolore, who works on one or two shoots a week. "But it's a challenge that I enjoy." One gets the sense that at Kink, Dolore has found a place that can nurture her talent for perversion.
Like most of Kink's offerings, Dolore's sites are unapologetically brutal. Women are dominated, wind up covered in ejaculate and with bound breasts that are agonizing to look at (well, at least for the BDSM newbie).
This is exactly the kind of stuff that sends shivers — the bad kind — up the spines of anti-porn feminists. But Dolore is a feminist too. As articulate as she is and as prominent she is and as wild as her porns are, she's often called on to defend BDSM's treatment and portrayal of women.