It's late summer again, when the hipper urban enclaves empty out and suddenly there's parking because all the cool people have gone to Burning Man or some other anarcho-artsy fire-dancing/fairy-wings festival. Burning Man in particular, plunked down as it is on a lake bed as hot as Venus and as barren as the moon, can take a toll on participants' health and well-being. Read more »
Now that I'm postmenopausal, I'm worried about how I can get some orthopedic support in our bedroom to make "amore" easier. My arms and back are injured from overuse and wear and tear. I really think about the garage door-opener rig in the movie 9 to 5. Is there something like that hoist that is available for home use? I think this would work great. A friend suggests a sky-chair. What can we do? Grab bars are out since there isn't a door nearby. Thanks for any help you can offer. Read more »
I hate my contraceptive! Hate hate hate hatedy hate! I'm on the mini-pill because the other ones made me sick, and this one is giving me headaches, zits, bloating, crying jags ... you name it. Planned Parenthood says the Mirena IUD has fewer side effects, but isn't that just the same hormone? So I'll be just as sick, but out more money? I think I'd just as soon get my tubes tied. Do you have any better suggestions or is it all the same bullshit?
My husband had been a secret methamphetamine user since the mid-1980s. He had issues with depression and repressed anger, but I had no idea that drugs had so much to do with everything that's happened in our lives. Read more »
I'm in my 20s, I've had a few partners, I masturbate fairly frequently (since childhood), and I have no hang-ups that I can identify. In fact, I enjoy having sex as often as possible (usually more often than my partners can keep up with). However, I don't think I can orgasm. I have no problems enjoying sex, and I can feel myself building up to an orgasm, but just at the point where it feels like I may reach the peak and crest over, suddenly everything just ebbs away and fizzles out. Read more »
Ever since I was nine or so, I've had unexplored dominant-role power exchange fantasies. Now they are at odds with my marriage of 20-plus years (my wife isn't into it) and my worldview/faith. I feel pretty strongly that I'm fooling myself when I think that finding a similarly-situated woman to clandestinely and mutually scratch this itch would somehow be cathartic and result in resolution once and for all, but the fantasy persists. Are these type of fantasies typically lifelong? Read more »
When my husband and I first married, he was into S-M. I was very inexperienced, while he ... well ... wasn't. Things were interesting for a while until he repeatedly breached our full-disclosure agreement and saw other people behind my back, but came clean about it later. There was also an issue with anal sex (he's hurt me too many times). We've been completely out of the scene for several years and are enjoying a much closer connection. Read more »
My girlfriend is into degradation during sex. It turns me on too, so I'm not worried about damaging our great relationship. I would like to explore more but am not sure where/how to start. Is there somewhere I can learn to be more degrading to my girl?
Heh. It's not easy being mean, is it? People who enjoy abusing the comparatively powerless require no instruction on how better to be beastly. Read more »
I'm 30 and have been married for five years. I do all the cooking, cleaning, and shopping. My wife does a few things around the house, but not many. We do not have any sex at all; she doesn't have the drive any more. The last time we did it was two years ago. My wife has even told me to find someone else and to stop wasting time on her. Read more »
Have you ever read Geek Love (Random House, 1983) by Katherine Dunn? It's a love it/hate it kind of thing that was very popular among a certain segment (now called "hipsters," I guess) and it begins, unforgettably, "When your mama was the geek, my dreamlets ... " Don't ask me why, but I'm having an apparently irresistible urge to call you, the readers, "my dreamlets" today. So:
This is not good news, but neither is it as dismal as it might first appear. Read more »