Andrea Nemerson

Single cells, single cells

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Dear Andrea:

I read your recent article about postpregnancy changes [12/19/07]; you didn't mention one promising new treatment for stress incontinence, stem cells. Read more »

A week late

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No, not that kind of "a week late." This is my New Year's column, a week late, but let's not beat ourselves up over it. Barring the exceedingly rare case in which someone both recognizes the need for change and makes and keeps a promise, New Year's resolutions mostly just hang around like any other weapon (see: Chekhov's gun), waiting for us to use them against ourselves. Some people won't have a gun in the house; I won't have stupid vows lying around waiting for me to stub my toe on them. Read more »

Hamster dance

Hamster Dance
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Dear Andrea:

I have a friend a few years younger than me. We were recently at a bar talking about his girlfriend and my wife. After a time, he confided to me that in the past few weeks he has been having trouble getting it up and was very concerned that he would have to take erectile dysfunction meds for the rest of his life or that he was losing his edge. We are both in our early 40s and in good shape and health.

My answer to him was that he should not panic. Read more »

Santa's secret

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Dear Andrea:

I'm a guy with a platonic, single, straight female friend in her mid-20s who could really use her first sex toy but doesn't seem comfortable enough with her sexuality to buy one on her own. The holidays seem like the perfect excuse to give a gift that keeps on giving. Read more »

Loose women

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Dear Andrea:

I have a good one for you! What does being pregnant and having a baby do to your body? Is it true that birth will enlarge your vagina, or make it "loose?" Does it get worse if you have more children? Is it noticeable to men? What about if you have a C-section? Read more »

Sexy beast

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Dear Andrea:

My ex-boyfriend won't give me back my stuff! I've e-mailed him repeatedly but gotten no response. I broke up with him because he just couldn't be bothered to show up or call. After three months of him flaking, I ended things.

He was also impotent, but couldn't have an adult conversation about it. He was tired, or his grandmother was dying ... Read more »

Sleep tight

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Dear Andrea:

I am newly married and have a great, fulfilling sex life with my husband. A while ago, I told him that I'm really turned on by the thought of him rousing me out of sleep with sex. Months have passed since I told him my fantasy, and, thinking he just wasn't interested, I recently asked him why he hadn't tried it yet. Read more »

Homocision follow-up

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Dear Readers:

You want to talk about homophobia! That's cool. So do I, especially if it means we don't have to talk about circumcision, which — really, honestly, wow. People, some perspective here. I was watching Delicatessen the other night — you know, the surreal French horror-comedy about the landlord–cum–deli owner who keeps his meat locker stocked the same way Mrs. Lovett got her mince for pies in Sweeney Todd, my all-time favorite piece of musical theater? Read more »

Dammit

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Dear Andrea:

I'm a woman, and my partner is too. We've agreed that for now, when we have sex outside our relationship, we'll have safe(r) sex. Another woman I'm dating is a major squirter, as in I need goggles and a raincoat. Next time we want to use a harness. However, I'm concerned that there's no safe way; when she comes (and she comes bucketloads), won't her ejaculate get into me?

I've thought about wrapping up with Saran Wrap and making a hole for the dildo, but that still doesn't seem like it would stop it all. Read more »

Ape-man

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Dear Andrea:

I just read your question in the Slate article (www.slate.com/id/2174411) that asks sex columnists what puzzles them. For you, it was, in short, "Why homophobia?"

I'm convinced that boys learn it from their peers. Once a person is labeled gay, that person is marked for ostracism. A boy who comes to the defense of a gay boy pretty much guarantees that he'll be lumped in with the gay boy, so a powerful taboo is set up. Read more »