I'm in my thirties. Most of my life, my sex drive has been pretty low not during the "honeymoon" phase, but within a year, it tends to taper off to almost nothing. This significantly, negatively impacts my relationships (my last one ended due to not enough sex; my current one has same problem).
I suspect this is pretty common. What are the typical causes of low libido in women? Read more »
I read your column about potential causes of a husband's lackluster performance in the bedroom [8/8/07]. You mentioned that the letter writer's husband should talk to his doctor about low testosterone, and I thought you might be interested in more information on that. As you said, low testosterone (low T) and diabetes are linked. In fact, a recent study found that men with diabetes are more than twice as likely to have low T than other men. Read more »
I am in love with a girl a few years younger than me. She's in her early 20s, and before me she had never had a sexual partner. The fact that I've been around the block over and over again made me reluctant to become "that guy." That said, our relationship has become very serious as well as emotionally rewarding.
The fact that I've been recruited as the lab segment for a human sexuality course has not been lost on me. I've done my best to exemplify a quality educational experience. Read more »
Is there any hope for my husband, who is not able to launch since he's on tons of meds (diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, etc.)? He's too embarrassed to ask the doctor, and asking would mean yet another pill. Could he be depressed? Are you the one to speak to?
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I can be spoken to, but your husband is going to have to speak up for himself. The doctors should ask, but they often don't want to or just don't. Read more »
My straight (?) man who loves women and their curves and smiles and butts and legs, who loves me and my mom and his mom and all the pretty girls who pass us on the sidewalk, also really, really likes looking at transsexual porn. He likes really feminine-looking guys who have long pretty hair and soft girly curves. He tells me he has no interest in following through with what has been for him a very, very long-term turn-on. Read more »
I have been reading you forever and you are awesome! I have been too intimidated to write but decided to break the silence. I'm a 36-year-old single bisexual woman who is beautiful (or so I'm told). I've been attracting more than my fair share of inappropriate dudes and women. This past year, my cousin's boyfriend came on to me, a married guy begged me to be with him, and a possessive Scorpio threatened suicide over me. Read more »
I get cold sores on my lips. Since I don't want to infect my wife with the herpes virus when I have an outbreak, I don't kiss or go down on her. Am I being too cautious? Is it safe to go down on her while I have cold sores?
PS I like the way you always end your responses with "Love."
Me too, thanks. And of course you're not being too cautious. Read more »
I recently broke up with my girlfriend (I'm a woman). Everything had started out peachy and remained so until about a month and a half before the breakup. It seemed that our growing emotional intimacy triggered her childhood issues (neglect, abuse, you name it ... followed by addiction; she's now thankfully in recovery), and she started pushing me away, then moved on to heavy criticism and blaming. Read more »
I'm a muff-diving dyke, sort of. The first few times with my new girlfriend, I enjoyed her taste. However, most recently she tasted much different and, frankly, worse. I almost blurted out that she might have a yeast infection (luckily I caught myself before completely ruining the mood). Curious, the other day I tasted myself, and I had a similar terribly pungent, unappealing taste. I know my body well enough to know I don't have a yeast infection! So now I'm wondering, is it related to menstrual cycles? Read more »
I don't like the amount of vaginal discharge I produce. It isn't really abnormal, and it doesn't smell, but I just don't like seeing it in my underwear. I use the Nuvaring, which can change a woman's discharge, but I don't think that's it. Is there a way to limit this stuff? The vagina's a mucus membrane, and I've heard that dairy increases mucus; should I drink less milk?