Andrea Nemerson

Newer skin

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andrea@altsexcolumn.com

Dear Readers:

Who would have thought that the column with the letter from the guy who was contemputf8g gluing his dick shut to spare his wife contact with his precome would have garnered so much attention?

Mainly, I got suggestions for changing the flavor of semen (nobody but me seemed to notice that it was not semen but Cowper's gland fluid that was bugging them), most involving pineapple juice. Read more »

Up the butt, Bob

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Dear Andrea:

My girlfriend and I came home from the club blind drunk and started getting a little crazy. I was in her vagina as well as her anus and swapping between without cleaning myself. I also didn't wear a condom. In the morning, I noticed there were blood stains on the sheets from her anus. I also licked her anus that night, but I'm not sure whether or not I got any blood in my mouth. I am really worried about diseases and infections even though we are both healthy with no infections. She has diabetes, however. Please help! Read more »

Skin Flick

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Dear Andrea:

Your question form says to "try to be interesting." Hmm, performance anxiety ... and I'm only talking about sex!

My wife is very sensitive to tastes, and she gags on my pre-come. On the other hand, I really don't like the reduced sensation of using a condom during oral sex. So I was considering temporarily sealing my urethra with some of that "liquid bandage" stuff — no mess for her, plenty of good feelings for me.

I have several concerns. Read more »

Emily Postfeminist

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Dear Andrea:

Recently, my boyfriend and I were at a strip club and bought a lap dance. My experience has been that, as a girl, the hands-off rule generally doesn't apply to me. However, out of respect for the girl, I don't touch until she invites me to. This one invited me to touch her. Caught up in the moment, my boyfriend asked, "Can she touch your pussy?" I was a bit shocked because I assumed that was off-limits, but she said, "She can, but you can't." So I started touching her on the outside of her G-string. Read more »

Don't mess with it

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Dear Andrea:

In last week's response to "Pill or No Pill," I'm glad that you mentioned that playing around with endocrine systems can be harmful. When I was diagnosed with anorexia, the doctors told me that if I kept missing periods, I would be at risk for things like low bone density and osteoporosis. It seems suspect that doctors and pharmaceutical companies are now advocating pills that limit a woman's period to four times a year. Read more »

Santa's secret

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Dear Andrea:
I'm a guy with a single, straight, platonic female friend in her mid-20s who could really use a first sex toy, but doesn't seem comfortable enough with her sexuality to buy one on her own. The holidays seem like the perfect excuse to give a gift that keeps on giving. Read more »

Mit-what-a?

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Dear Andrea:
I've heard two men recently refer to "Mitusa" as a fabulous oral technique to use on a woman, but they were reluctant to explain it. What is it and why the secrecy?
Love,
Dying To Know
Dear Dying:
Maybe they don't know themselves what it means? I never do. Read more »

Try, try again

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Dear Andrea:
I can't have sex. I tried about four years ago — it wouldn't fit and it was not that big. I've been scared to have a boyfriend since. I'm too embarrassed to go to the doctor and was wondering if you knew what I could do about it at home.
Love,
Failed Once ...
Dear Once:
While the original locus of your problem may have been you-know-where, I fear it has crawled northward over the last few years and is now located squarely in your head. Read more »

Bumpy ride

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Dear Andrea:
I'm a 50-year-old male. I've been married for 23 years and have two grown kids. The problem is my wife. She has never needed or been interested in sex. I have tried everything — books, videos, even suggesting counseling. She says no, there's no problem. Our wedding night was a disaster. Is there any hope for me? What can I do?
Love,
High and Dry
Dear Dry:
File for divorce or pray for a painless, early death. I just don't see another way out for you, sorry.
That was flip and a little cruel, and I do apologize but only sort of. Read more »

Ooga-booga

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Dear Andrea:
I wish I hadn't read your column about cervical penetration. I am thoroughly disgusted, disturbed, even angry. It's been my understanding that body modification is a red flag of imbalance, poor sense of self, and ignorance about anatomy and physiology. Do you think I'm justified in being disturbed that people are going around messing with irreplaceable tissue and getting off on their own pain? Throughout history we have tested our physical limits through sports, battle, fasting, etc. Read more »