Advice

alt.sex.column: Dizzy spell

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Dear Andrea:

You've written occasionally about infatuation, but is it really such a bad thing? It has driven even logical, structure-loving me to be romantic and loopy. But isn't it based on genuine attraction? Is it something to be wary of?

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alt.sex.column: Maresy dotes

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Dear Andrea:

It's spring! Even though I live in California, it's exciting when spring comes. I mean literally exciting, as in, it makes me horny. All winter I was like "Eh, dating" and now I'm all like "OMG boys! Lemme at 'em." This happens every year, whether I have a boyfriend or not.

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alt.sex.column: Oh, grow up!

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Dear Andrea:

My really sweet, nice new boyfriend is into S–M and I'm not sure I even understand the attraction. I can get behind the sensation aspect but I have some moral and feminist objections. He insists it's just a way to play, but it doesn't sound like play to me. From what I read, people seem to take it pretty seriously. Plus calling it play ("pain play" "play-dates," "play partners") doesn't really convince me that it's all in good fun. You're going to think this is ridiculous, but honestly all the talk about "play" sounds immature to me. We are 30 and 33 years old! Do we really need to spend our free time "playing"? Convince me.

Love,

All Play And No Work ...

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alt.sex.column: Ti-ming

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Dear Andrea:

My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years and we have always had the same issue. It takes a long time for him to come, whether I am performing oral sex or we are having anal sex. We've talked about it, and I am always trying to understand what I can do to make him come. Since it takes so long, he always ends up finishing off himself. I would like to be the one who makes him come when I give him a blow job, but I don't know what to do. Please help.

Love,

Spectator

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Urethra, frankly

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Dear Andrea:

I have always had an interest in inserting thin objects into my urethra, and now manage a large-diameter pencil. It really feels thrilling, and depending on the mood, I tend to orgasm. My question is: how much can the urethra in a woman stretch? I have also inserted the same into my cervix; are there dangers in either?

Love,

Intrepid Explorer

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alt.sex: Don't be a dick

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Dear Andrea:

I'm not your average 20-something male. I love sex, but not unless its part of a relationship. I guess I think too highly of myself to tag random chicks meaninglessly. I do have a high sex drive and a great deal of experience, but the women I go for are usually highly-educated, professional, librarian types.

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alt.sex.column: Ars longa

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andrea@altsexcolumn.com

Dear Andrea:

I'm 43, good-looking, and reputedly sexy, funny, and easy to hang out with. I got laid almost daily in my 20s. But my last steady relationship was in 2007. My confidence is at an all-time low. I masturbate way too much to movies with Asian women and men who are hung to the floor, which makes me feel very small. I'm in a bad place right now and I don't see the point of approaching women since I won't be able to satisfy them like in the movies. Read more »