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The subject of size-discordant couples, discussed here recently, is a perennial favorite and will only get more so until such a time as we USA-ians fulfill our currently apparent destiny and become a nation of like-size giants in both height and girth. Till then, though, making a couple's ends meet will continue to be an issue and a puzzlement. I suggested pillows, as usual, specifically the sort of ramps and wedges sold expensively as sex pillows and less appealingly but more affordably at medical device emporia, and heard from half of such a couple who eschew such artifice and stick with the basics (this is for a tall guyshort girl couple, remember; thin personfat person follows):
His wife can kneel on the bed, crouching forward a bit and stabilizing herself with her arms, with ass towards the edge. Unless the guy is the Jolly Green Giant, he should be able to steer into her with just a little doing. She will be more comfortably positioned on the bed than bending over while standing up too. My partner is six feet one, and I'm five-three we make it work just fine!
Then I took the discussion to one of the invisible rooms full of invisible friends I frequent out on the Interwebs. (What? You don't have invisible friends? I couldn't live without them, and they come in very handy at this job too. Where do you think I found you a cabaret singer who can give advice on felutf8g with abandon without causing damage to the vocal cords, for instance, or a realtor willing to comment on the thankfully now-fading fad called "house humping"?) This invisi-friend is generally rather reserved and bookish in style (I was going to say "gently reared" but thought better of it in context), unlike another longtime Web friend I might have asked to comment, the possibly altogether-too-fabulous Miss Plumcake, now busy garnering famitude over at Manolo for the Big Girl (manolobig.com). Still, still waters and all that. Here is my bookish invisi-friend, in all her surprising, not to say shocking, candor. Say thank you!
"I am very fat. My husband and I are both about the same height, and he's slender. We both have joint problems. We also have awesome sex. So, here are some things that work for us keeping in mind that it never hurts to stretch a little beforehand.
"The best all-around position is what we call scissors. (Possible a misnomer it's not the classic scissors position, almost more of a hybrid between that and spooning. Spissors.) I lie on my left side, knees slightly bent, and raise my right leg. He kneels and enters me, and we roll over, me pushing off with my left leg, so that he winds up lying on his side and I have my right leg over him. My left leg is between his two legs. I am almost, but not quite, lying on my back, and we're at an angle to each other. This is great because it's completely comfortable, he can reach to touch me, and we both have good access to me for hands or vibrator. A variation on this is to leave me on my side but throw my right leg over his shoulder while he remains kneeling great penetration and good access but it's not as comfortable for long.
"If you have the right furniture, cowgirl can be very easy. This position blows his mind. We line up a rectangular ottoman perpendicular to the sofa, and he lies back propped up on big pillows with his butt on the ottoman. He's lying near one end of the sofa so that I can use the arm to help take my weight. All I do is straddle the ottoman and him (they're almost the same width) and lower myself. Once down, I can rest my arms on the sofa, lean forward, or sit upright. It does give my thighs a workout, but despite my weight it's comfortable for him and much, much more comfortable for me than kneeling on a bed my weight is either sitting down on him or on my feet. He has a fantastic view and it's perfect for kissing. Only drawback for me is that I can't really get to my clit.
"Three or four bed pillows also help for doggy-style, so I don't have to rest my entire weight on my arms. The sofa and ottoman are also handy for this position; I put one knee on the sofa, one on the ottoman, and he stands behind me while I rest against the sofa arm, piled with cushions.
"Positions that don't work so well: reverse cowgirl (who cares anyway?) and classic missionary. We can do the latter, but it's not very comfortable, and I don't recommend it for the big-bellied."
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