Compiled by Breena Kerr
Lusty Ladies and cheap tattoos at the "Friday the 13th" benefit party
>> Bawdy Storytelling
Local literary smut-spillers – including Sherilyn Connelly, Isaac Rodriguez, Sister Mable Syrup, Melissa Hoobler, Ray Allen, and many more -- share their bawdiest tales with a ribald crowd. Bring your own beverage and sparkling personality (and a tale of your own, too – there may be room for one or two from the audience!). This installment’s theme is “But We Finished Anyway: Tales of frozen asses and gag reflexes.” Good times.
Thu/12, 7pm, $7 (snacks included)
1286 Folsom, SF.
Contact firstname.lastname@example.org  for more info
>> Born Into Brothels screening
This amazing documentary by Zana Briski and Ross Kauffman is about children in Calcutta’s Red Light district. It won the Oscar for best documentary film in 2005. The screening is part of SF Camerawork’s film series about youth empowerment and will be followed by a discussion.
Thu/12, 7pm, free with suggested donation
657 Mission, second floor
>> ”Friday the 13th” fundraiser with Inkwell and the Lusty Lady
Join the lovely ladies of the Lusty Lady and the inkers at Inkwell tattoo studio for a lively show – and $40 tattoos all night! – benefiting the AIDS Healthcare Foundation. Free drinks all night, and who knows what you’ll wake with scrawled permanently on your backside. For charity, of course.
Fri/13, 9pm, donations encouraged, tattoos $40
1145 65th St., Emeryville
>> IXFF Exposure Party
“The erotic film networking event of the year.” Come one come all directors, editors, producers, talent and more for a special panel presentation on erotic cinema. And if the thought of enjoying a live DJ, complimentary cocktails, and the sheer pleasure of knowing everyone around you is in the pleasure business isn‘t enough to get you through the doors, maybe the Independent Erotic Film Festival’s grand prize of $1,500 will have you smoozing with the porn-sters, combing the party for your production crew.
Fri/13, 7pm-10pm, $5-10 (sliding scale)
The Center for Sex and Culture
1519 Mission, SF.
>> Write Whole: Survivors Write
This all day writers retreat is an opportunity survivors of sexual trauma to build community and engage in “deep heart writing,” and receive immediate feedback. Breakfast and light lunch provided. To register, email Jennifer@writingourselveswhole.org 
Sat/14, 9am-4pm, $100
Downtown San Francisco
>> Anarkink Post-Book Fair Play Party
If BDSM anarchists and anti-authoritarians can agree on one thing it’s a party- so they’re throwing one this Saturday featuring a rope/bondage performance, spanking and flogging booth, and live DJs. Proceeds from the party will go towards offering free workshops and securing a regular meeting space. Am I the only one who gets cynical when I read “anarchist” and “regular meeting spaces” in the same announcement? Write to email@example.com  for details.
Sat/14, 9pm-2am, $5-15 sliding scale donation
>> Ask the Doctors: Threesomes
Curious to see if three’s a crowd? Learn how to turn your ménage a trios from tragique to fantastique! Dr Carol Queen and Dr Robert Lawrence will tell you how.
Sat/14 , 6:30pm-7:30pm
Good Vibrations Berkeley
2504 San Pablo
>> Pisco Latin Ladies Night
This latin bar and lounge is conveniently located across from the LGBT Center- a great place to meet ladies of all flavors for drink specials.
Tue/17, 5pm-10pm, special drinks from $5
>> The Zen Submissive
Sure someone’s pounding the hell out of you- that doesn’t mean you can’t find your happy place. Join Madison Young for this unique class on how to be the best submissive you can be- includes techniques for processing pain and strong sensations, connecting with your top, visualizations and vocalizations that help you ride the energy of the scene, and how to take care of yourself physically and emotionally.
Wed/18, 8pm-10pm, $25 pre-registered, $30 drop-in
603 Valencia St