I came, I saw, I glittered: Monthly live sex show debuts in the Mission

The ladies of the first night of Cum and Glitter's sex and swank.

The only other time I had been to a live sex show was in the Red Light District of Amsterdam. The thing was crude – even amid the slew of debauchery that makes up tourist Amsterdam. Mostly, that was because of the concrete venue, Eurotrash techno, and slimy men masturbating and jeering behind me. But the Saturday night debut of Cum and Glitter at an underground venue in the Mission was an entirely different experience. Hosted by the elegant and welcoming Ginger Murry of Whore Magazine, the show is the brainchild of Ava Solanas and Maxine Holloway, who started the new monthly event as an expressive outlet for the sex worker community.

The show started at a little past ten p.m. Attendees descended wooden steps to an intimate underground event space that resembled a 1920’s speakeasy. The room was dimly lit, dotted with small round tables, and overflowing with anticipation. Garter belts and playsuit-flaunting babes appeared, accompanied by the deep, warm bellows of a cello being played by the artist Unwoman that vibrated through the air. 

The series’ first performance, an enchanting strip tease by Dorian Faust, set a sexy mood that carried through the rest of the evening, despite ensuing acts that registered higher on the comedy scale. Faust looked like a mermaid in her sequined outfit of varying blue hues, and her nimble body moved in waves, creating an optical illusion that carried on until she was stripped down to just her gold and blue glitter and thong. 

Next on stage were Courtney Trouble and Maxine Holloway, the latter of whose nipples were swiftly cinched with clothes pins, mouth gagged with her brunette mane. The evening proceeded in this manner, switching off between sensual and expressive solo dances and the longer duo role-plays that involved plenty of spankings, toys, and at times, ordinary household items used in surprisingly creative ways. 

Eden Alexander’s lesson on how to be a dominatrix was awe-inspiring to say the least. She spoke with comedic conviction as she took charge of her male submissive, who was ordered to worship his mistress -- when he wasn’t being used as a standing surface for her stillettoes. Alexander’s delightful sass was perfectly complemented by her -- even sassier -- hot pink latex floor-length dress. 

Dialogue and interactions were clearly exaggerated, and the performance was more stylized than realistic. However, the sheer and genuine excitement of the performers made the show feel unforced. The audience reaped all the usual benefits of watching a performance in a small venue, and we were able to intimately enjoy every soft moan and fleeting expression –- moments that are normally missed entirely in onscreen porn. Being eye-level with the action literally involved the audience that much more in the ecstasy of the performers -- when Solanas squirted in all her glittering glory to the swells of the cello mere feet to her right, barely missing my shoe in the process, it was as if she was coming for all of us. 

It is billed as a live sex show, but don’t be misled -- the first installation of “Cum and Glitter” was not simply an explicit display of intercourse as it was a series of rather light-hearted scenarios acted out by nine gorgeous women who understand how pleasurable the mix of consent and wild imagination can be.  Whether your fantasy is a naughty baby sitter, sexy shoeshine, or being gagged with a rubber chicken, there was an elated smile on everyone’s face by the end of the night -- it was clear that everyone left the show feeling quite satisfied. 

Check out Cum and Glitter's website for information on the collective's next show 


I don't know where to start.

1. If you're a "sex worker" then why would you need an "expressive outlet" in which to have sex - considering you're already doing it as a profession. That's like saying an artist needs an "expressive outlet" in which to express their art - it makes no sense. Unless of course - "sex work" is basically a job and not at all expressive.

2. The description of nearly being splattered with vaginal ejaculate was just really disgusting.

Posted by Guest on Feb. 27, 2012 @ 5:24 pm

1. This doesn't make any sense, day jobs don't usually equal artistic fufill...wait, unless -- is this John Waters? Mr. Waters, not all of us can find perfect art-day job accordance. Please sir, even you have your private perversions. Please try to be sensitive to those that haven't had your luck in making $ off their most creative impulses.

2. Good. May I suggest you stop reading a blog entitled SEX SF.

Posted by caitlin on Feb. 27, 2012 @ 6:55 pm

Now delete this fucking comment!

Posted by Guest on Feb. 27, 2012 @ 7:02 pm

You mad?

Posted by Hudson on Feb. 28, 2012 @ 9:48 am

1. Actually professional artists do need and do create outlets for their creativity. That is why artists make a new painting, create new bodies of work, or curate an art exhibit or performance. We are a group of professional sex workers who perform sex, why would it be ridiculous for us to organize an event for ourselves that show cases our performances in a creative way? If we were a group of dancers, comedians, actors, singers or yodelers I do not think you would take issue with what we consider creative or an outlet. Why would "There is so much wrong here" be a response to us orchestrating a show on our own terms with a creative vision - Should we just sit around and wait for some one to hire us to do something? In any other business it is looked upon favorably to create opportunities for yourself, especially in performance based or artistic fields. And sex work IS work - it is a very diverse field, some of it is very creative and some of it is not.

2. Taste is a matter of taste. You may have some sexual preferences, turn ons, or kinks that some may find undesirable, boring or even gross. That night the 90 people in the audience cheered vigorously when being treated with the sight of vaginal ejaculate. Sounds like you have some deeper issues with female pleasure, orgasm and cum. That's too bad. This is not a required event that you have to see. If you are not into it - just do not attend. We have plenty of people willing to take your seat. But if you do decide to come to one of our shows, email me - I will personally bring you a poncho.


Posted by Maxine Holloway on Feb. 27, 2012 @ 7:31 pm

I appreciate that - Caitlin could take a lesson or two from you on that (and prolly other issues as well) ;-)

Posted by Guest on Feb. 27, 2012 @ 8:51 pm

Are you capable of any comment, even a show of appreciation, that isn't wrought with sexism and misogyny?

Posted by Sugartruck on Feb. 27, 2012 @ 11:28 pm

I wasn't aware that disagreement with Caitlin constituted "sexism and misogyny." That must be fourth wave feminism - "disagreement with online personalities constitutes betrayal of sisterhood."

Posted by Guest on Feb. 27, 2012 @ 11:39 pm

It has nothing to do with you disagreeing with Caitlin. You are absolutely entitled to your opinion. You were patronizing to Maxine with your little "you're a good sport" pat on the head. And your little wink-wink jab "and other issues as well" re: Caitlin was unnecessary (sounds like you have a personal problem with her to be honest - jilted lover, perhaps?) Also the way you attempt to (patronizingly) reward one woman ("you're a good sport, I appreciate that") by insulting and dismissing another is pretty damn gross and just more sexist, misogynist bullshit that is not going to get you very far on this blog. Or in life, for that matter.

Posted by Sugartruck on Feb. 28, 2012 @ 9:48 am

Yeah, I would think it would just be a job. I think a more valid comparison would be to a cook in a chain restaurant, who churns out the same garbage every day at work, where they can't be creative, but relishes the chance at home to cook more creatively; or a technical writer who cranks out boring instructional text at the day job, while working on the next great novel at night.

Posted by Daiyu Hurst on Mar. 16, 2012 @ 7:14 am

For those of us who, you know, are into men?

Posted by Guest on Feb. 27, 2012 @ 5:25 pm

see as much heaving flesh as you can throw a stick at.

Posted by Guest on Feb. 27, 2012 @ 5:35 pm

We love men :) This first show was an all lady maiden voyage. Female performers supporting and collaborating with each other was the catalyst for this specific show. Cum & Glitter has plans for many different kinds of shows with many different kinds of people, so please stay tuned.

Posted by Maxine Holloway on Feb. 27, 2012 @ 6:28 pm

Because its not actually a "sex show." That is just the provocative title for an otherwise boring performance of not-very-attractive women dancing about on stage in simulated sexual gestures.....

Posted by Guest on Feb. 27, 2012 @ 7:10 pm

What do you consider an actual sex?

I would consider penetration, oral, dildos, fingers and vibrators educing loud orgasms and squirting on stage much more than just dancing. I am personally a really bad dancer and an even worse gesturer- BUT I am really good at fucking :)

Is it only considered real sex if you personally find us attractive?

Posted by Maxine Holloway on Feb. 27, 2012 @ 7:39 pm

chicks you'd actually like to nail in real life.

And I'd speculate that half of them are lesbians anyway.

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 27, 2012 @ 7:50 pm


You don't find any one (let alone all) of these women fuckable? Well, I reckon that's what Grindr is for.

Posted by Hudson on Feb. 27, 2012 @ 8:59 pm

And several of them look distinctly lesbian.

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 28, 2012 @ 9:49 am

Please do tell me what "distinctly lesbian" looks like. I'm a heterosexual male that is attracted to women and there are many lesbians that I'm attracted to. Their lesbian identity does not preclude my attraction. My girlfriend is queer and is attracted to both men and women. Her attraction to women does not make her undesirable to me. So again, can you please explain to me what a lesbian looks like?

Posted by HM on Feb. 28, 2012 @ 10:34 am

Butch is obvious.

But skinny, geeky librarian with glasses is well known too.

But mostly it's the way they carry themselves. A little too much like a guy

Posted by Guest on Mar. 03, 2012 @ 9:35 am

LOL. Do please go on, doctor.

Posted by marke on Mar. 03, 2012 @ 1:36 pm

Just check the broads in the pic.

Or stroll by the Lexington Club.

Posted by Guest on Mar. 03, 2012 @ 4:45 pm

Well, according to their bios, most of them are lesbians. I wanted to go to the next show, but I've lost interest because the fantasy is that these are women who might be interested in me, personally, and that clearly is not the case. As a guy, and I'm not even straight (I'm bi), I am not sexually interested in lesbians anymore than they could be sexually interested in me.

Posted by Robert on Mar. 04, 2012 @ 4:27 pm


Posted by Dirk Diggler on Feb. 28, 2012 @ 1:18 pm

-actually, everyone in the show makes a living via being sexually desired- independent porn, kink.com, burlesque, fetish modeling, etc. As we all pay rent, I'm gonna hypothesize that a great many people find one or more of us attractive- possibly even beyond just "bangability" into "she seems like a smart person I'd like to hang out with, as well as negotiate sex with".

-it's a queer show. So, yeah, a lot of us acknowledge and perform for and enjoy gazes other than male. SHOCKING

-it's easy to be a critic when hidden by anonymity, baby. Let us know when you're making $ with your body and we'll come judge you <3

Posted by Kitty Stryker on Feb. 28, 2012 @ 1:27 pm

Right, if there's glitter, then that is the queer component.

Posted by marcos on Mar. 03, 2012 @ 9:10 am

These chicks are mostly gay which means that most guys wouldn't be interested. The whole thing seems way too self-indulgent.

Posted by Guest on Mar. 03, 2012 @ 9:37 am

Are you saying that men don't get off on watching hot women fuck each other... if they're enjoying it?

Or that women can't be interested in watching porn and sex?

Thank god our sole-out crowd felt differently. You don't have to come to the next one. It might blow your mind, poor chap.

Posted by Kitty Stryker on Mar. 04, 2012 @ 12:12 pm

Ok...Kitty Stryker.

Posted by Guest on Jun. 12, 2012 @ 9:17 pm

Ok...Kitty Stryker.

Posted by Guest on Jun. 12, 2012 @ 9:17 pm

than smut and bad art. That really would be uplifting.

Posted by Guest on Feb. 27, 2012 @ 5:34 pm

SF Jazz and Dave Eggers- lots of world class art in SF - open your eyes.

Posted by Guest on Feb. 27, 2012 @ 8:34 pm

You could create some art (of course you'll have to give up some of the time you commit to internet trolling). Or move?

Posted by Hudson on Feb. 27, 2012 @ 8:36 pm

Too dumb for New York and too ugly for LA.

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 28, 2012 @ 9:50 am

I've spent a fair amount of time living in all three places and although it's only partly true, it's still very funny.

SF once was able to point to some leading edge lifestyles, forward-thinking land-use policies, and progressive politics it helped put out into the world, but now just about every westernized city in the world has its own queer "sex positive" lifestyle groups (how hard is it to sell that to the masses?), designer drugs, "job-friendly" legislation, and highy paid residents who can afford a $12.95 tofu sandwich, a $6.50 microbrew, and $2,500 a month rent.

The innovative San Francisco culture and demographics have been extremely affected from close proximity to Silicon Valley, a place renowned for high salaries and 70-hour work weeks. Every year the world's most elite universities send tens of thousands more of their best and brightest to the Bay Area hoping to make a fortune here, most of whom are paid much more than the rest of us. Obviously a community changes radically when the entrance fee gets so high that only the very affluent (or a few very poor) get to live there.

It's taken a few decades longer in SF, but it has become very much like the core areas of London, Paris, NYC, Geneva, west LA and a few other elite cities in the world. They may be visited by tens of thousands of tourists and daytrippers each month who dutifully spend their money while visiting, but it's mainly millionaires and the highest paid salary earners who actually live in these core areas. These cities are similar to SF in that much of the housing is owned by long-time landlord families or well-financed passive investors who are more than happy to rent an airspace with walls to the highest bidders at $2,000, $5,000 or even $10,000 per month. Money making doesn't get much easier than renting or selling airspace that keeps going up in value.

Posted by Guest on Feb. 28, 2012 @ 11:24 am

But SF isn't world class in the way that those other cities are, many of which are capitals of countries with more people than California e.g. London, Paris, Rome etc.

And it can still be hard to get dinner after 9pm in SF - a time when NY'ers are just beginning to think about going out to dinner.

There's something essentially provincial about SF, and it isn't helped by all these Peter Pan types moving here because they don't want to grow up. What business success that does happen here shows that we're making progress, and we're not doomed forever to keep living like it's 1967.

But I'd agree with you that this "show" is little more than petty tittilation that you could find in the sketchy neighborhoods of almost any major city.

Posted by Guest on Mar. 05, 2012 @ 10:03 am

I find it so refreshing to see these BEAUTIFUL, PROFESSIONAL women finding a way to express themselves on their OWN TERMS. Regardless of some of the perceptions here, they are artists, and deserve the same respect as any other creator. I think it is sad that our society has conditioned us to be prudish and so ashamed of something the vast majority of us participate in, and were infact biologically meant to enjoy...

It sounds to me like some here don't appreciate empowered sex workers, clearing a new path for other women in this field. I think it's great and Maxine and the rest of the crew have my support. :) I think they are all awesome, BEAUTIFUL and FUCKABLE.

I'd also like to add that I APPRECIATE the fact that these women aren't plumped up silicone barbie dolls. They are real, beautiful women that I feel I can relate to. I find this much more attractive than what mainstream, oooohhh oooohhhh ahhhh ahhhh porn has to offer.

Posted by Katie on Feb. 28, 2012 @ 6:19 am

I for one find this creative artistic form to be refreshing and so far above and thankfully removed from the violence and exploitation of the old porn industry. I do not know any of these ladies, but I find it commendable they are willing to blaze new trails, create new venues, and put it on the line for themselves and other sex workers. Some of the comments here are disheartening and distasteful, and reaffirm just how far we have to go as a society, and how unenlightened our culture remains.

Posted by Randy on Feb. 29, 2012 @ 6:49 am

But it is still very self-indulgent, obvious to see. And no, they rarely get paid, whatever they tell you.

Posted by Guest on Jun. 12, 2012 @ 9:36 pm

How many comments, on average, do you delete from the pieces you either write or oversee - vs. other writers at the SFBG like Marke, Tim or Steven?

Just curious as a number of these comment threads seem to end with replies more favorable to you.

Posted by Guest on Feb. 28, 2012 @ 1:10 pm

for the answers to any questions you may have about deleted comments.


Posted by marke on Feb. 28, 2012 @ 1:36 pm

And justifies censorship?

It's not clear to your readers.

Posted by Guest on Mar. 05, 2012 @ 11:35 am

A chacun son gout.

Posted by Patrick Monk. RN on Mar. 03, 2012 @ 4:35 pm

The website is not available. Do you know when they plan another show and how one can sign up on a mailing list for more information? Thanks for letting us know about such erotic and creative shows!

Posted by Guest on Jul. 01, 2012 @ 5:04 pm

I would love to go to this show, It will be fun watching them live, not matter they are lesbians I just want entertainment all the time and that's it!!

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