Sex SF

Pride leather marshalls hail a "kinky renaissance"

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It was almost Pride Week, I've had two leather luminaries hanging out at kink coffeeshop Wicked Grounds – it just seemed like an opportune time to start waxing philosophical about the possibility of a kink renaissance in San Francisco. 

“There just seems to be this general coming-out,” said Leland Carina, who as a member of the SF girls of Leather has done her part to increase the inclusiveness and malleability of her kink community. She likened this expansion to the capital-R Renaissance, which happened after the threat of bubonic plague had been mitigated. Likewise, she said, the kink community in San Francisco is finally hitting a point where the fear of AIDS no longer rules people's sexual encounters. 

Race Bannon, Carina's co-leather marshall in this Sunday's Pride parade, hadn't thought of it that way – but Carina's theory resonated with him. “We've figured out how to deal with [AIDS], and we've moved past it. I call what's happening a kinky renaissance.”

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Your love: Open SF conference teaches, showcases polyamorous community

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“I have a partner that I live with, two girlfriends, and a number of lovers” 

In my San Francisco, it’s not uncommon to know someone who identifies as polyamorous, or who participates in multiple loving and intimate relationships. Read more »

Lusty for the Ladies? Worker-owned strip club still open, but needs your help

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I have to apologize for not frothing up the waters with my own account of everyone's favorite (and only) worker-owned strip club the Lusty Lady being in peril of having to shut its doors. I was gallivanting about on a world tour -- find my list of illegal places in Berlin to trespass on here -- and re-emerged on this side of the bridge to hysterical accounts that the classic, unionized titty joint was going under.

It's no secret that the Guardian has a tawdry, longstanding affair with the Lusty -- so I made a quick call to long-time Lusty Lorelei. Upshot: the club is kind-of safe for the moment, but it's ready to grind it out for your singles. Read more »

Key lime hair with a side of porno: the Brande Baugh story

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“My job is really weird. I think about that all the time.”

The Mission is a neighborhood accustomed to eccentric individuals. One would think Brande Baugh’s key lime hair and vintage Misfits t-shirt would make her fit right in. Yet her presence in a neighborhood cafe still elicited several stares when she walked in -- with her perfectly-curated face, pastel pink lipstick, and evenly-powdered face, Baugh looked like one of Warhol’s Marlyn Monroe silkscreens. Though Baugh stays pretty busy living and working in Los Angeles, she also has regular gigs at Kink, a San Francisco-based pornography website that specializes in bondage and BDSM

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Sipping lattes with the transmale program specialist

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“People at sex clubs are looking to hook up. It’s usually my safe sex practices that get me turned down more and not the fact that I’m transgender” 

I thought it would be cute to conduct today’s interview in a bathhouse sauna. Instead I found myself sipping a soy milk latte in one of the Mission’s many hip coffee shops -- not as intimate of an option, but probably better for my note taking. For once, I was on time, and I patiently awaited San Francisco sex educator Niko Kowell.Read more »

Sex Talk with Princess Donna: Squirting and the ass icon

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You have to have communication skills if you're going to responsibly wield the amount of sexual power that Princess Donna holds in her sexy little hands in the depths of the Mission District's very own porn palace, Kink.com. The director-actor of such sites as Kink's Ultimate Surrender, Bound Gang Bang, and Public Disgrace knows about expanding sexual horizons -- which is why it's so rad we've tapped her for this new love and sex advice column.

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In bed with the cuddle expert

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“I’ve been enveloped and swimming in love the last few years”

It’s early Saturday morning, and I’m quickly putting fresh sheets on my bed. The door bell rings before I can finish, and I run down the stairs to a incredibly punctual, smiling, and shirtless Travis Sigley, the cuddle therapy practitioner.

Sigley is a San Francisco-based, specializing in private appointments, group sessions, and workshops on non-sexual intimacy. I invited Sigley over to have a conversation about his line of work -- and to find out why this beautiful man is always shirtless. He greets me at my door with a big hug. His handsome face and sun-kissed body make it easy to imagine spending an hour in my bed wrapped in his loving arms.

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On the couch with James Darling

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He won the Heartthrob of the Year honor at this year's Feminist Porn Awards. He teaches workshops on porn star sex. He has a full schedule of solo masturbation and menage a trois porn shoots coming up. There’s no denying that 2012 is the year for transmale porn star James Darling. To celebrate his it-ness, I invited the very attractive, slightly shy, and oh-so-charismatic Darling over to my house to sit on my couch, eat some bacon chocolate chip cookies, and talk sex. Read more »

Sex Talk with Princess Donna: Sugar daddies and the perils of bromance

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One might imagine that there is hardly a personal entanglement that Princess Donna, director and star of Kink.com's Public Disgrace, Bound Gang Bangs, and Ultimate Surrender sites, can't handle with a strong wrist and flogger. While that may be true, the BDSM power player is also a master of the kind of communication involving words. And unlike your standard sex advisor, she's that frank kind of sex-positive feminist that can help with whatever you want to do in bed (/dungeon) that is safe and consensual. And be real sexy through the processing, to patent leather boot. We had to give her her very own Guardian sex advice column.

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Hot sexy events: April 13-19

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Kink.com is getting its star turn in the mainstream media – everyone's favorite historic-building-cum-porn-palace served as the shooting locaiton for the movie that Stephen Elliott and Kink star Lorelei Lee penned, Cherry (trailer here). The flick, which makes its San Francisco debut at the SF International Film Festival (April 24, 27, 28) stars James Franco and Heather Graham, who plays a female director at a porn company.

It isn't Kink in the movie, exactly -- it's not a BDSM company, for one. And I met up with Lee at Thieves Tavern this week and she told me that despite the vocation of Cherry's protagonist, she didn't consider it a movie based in sex-positive activism. Read more »