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Dear Andrea:

My newish husband and I are madly in love. We're extremely experimental and both love porn. We share a healthy sex life (five-plus times a week) and talk about everything — except the fact that he secretly jerks off after I leave for work or when I'm in the bath, whether we have sex or not. (The signs are all there, so I know I'm not mistaken.) It's not so much that I'm upset about it (I'd love to watch!) but that it decreases his volume and ability to achieve orgasm with me. Read more »

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Dear Andrea:

I have a small penis, and I want my wife to have sex with a man more endowed than me, but I don't know how to approach her regarding this.

Any suggestions?

Love,

Small but Fearless

Dear Fear:

I'm trying to re-create in my head the conversation from the other week which culminated in my suggesting that someone could really clean up at Cafe Press with an "Ask Me about My Small Penis" T-shirt. Read more »

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Dear Readers:

Who would have thought that the column with the letter from the guy who was contemputf8g gluing his dick shut to spare his wife contact with his precome would have garnered so much attention?

Mainly, I got suggestions for changing the flavor of semen (nobody but me seemed to notice that it was not semen but Cowper's gland fluid that was bugging them), most involving pineapple juice. Read more »

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Dear Andrea:

My girlfriend and I came home from the club blind drunk and started getting a little crazy. I was in her vagina as well as her anus and swapping between without cleaning myself. I also didn't wear a condom. In the morning, I noticed there were blood stains on the sheets from her anus. I also licked her anus that night, but I'm not sure whether or not I got any blood in my mouth. I am really worried about diseases and infections even though we are both healthy with no infections. She has diabetes, however. Please help! Read more »

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Dear Andrea:

Your question form says to "try to be interesting." Hmm, performance anxiety ... and I'm only talking about sex!

My wife is very sensitive to tastes, and she gags on my pre-come. On the other hand, I really don't like the reduced sensation of using a condom during oral sex. So I was considering temporarily sealing my urethra with some of that "liquid bandage" stuff — no mess for her, plenty of good feelings for me.

I have several concerns. Read more »

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Dear Andrea:

Recently, my boyfriend and I were at a strip club and bought a lap dance. My experience has been that, as a girl, the hands-off rule generally doesn't apply to me. However, out of respect for the girl, I don't touch until she invites me to. This one invited me to touch her. Caught up in the moment, my boyfriend asked, "Can she touch your pussy?" I was a bit shocked because I assumed that was off-limits, but she said, "She can, but you can't." So I started touching her on the outside of her G-string. Read more »

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Dear Andrea:

In last week's response to "Pill or No Pill," I'm glad that you mentioned that playing around with endocrine systems can be harmful. When I was diagnosed with anorexia, the doctors told me that if I kept missing periods, I would be at risk for things like low bone density and osteoporosis. It seems suspect that doctors and pharmaceutical companies are now advocating pills that limit a woman's period to four times a year. Read more »

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Dear Andrea:
We use a fertility monitor for birth control — my partner pees on a stick and inserts the stick in the monitor, and it tells her when she's fertile. This device is designed to tell you when you are likely to get pregnant — we are using it to abstain on the fertile days. This would seem to be more accurate than the rhythm method. Do you think this might be a valid (and less invasive) method of birth control?
Love,
Sticks Not Pills

Dear Stick:
Sure, of course it is. Read more »

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Dear Andrea:
I'm a guy with a single, straight, platonic female friend in her mid-20s who could really use a first sex toy, but doesn't seem comfortable enough with her sexuality to buy one on her own. The holidays seem like the perfect excuse to give a gift that keeps on giving. Read more »

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Dear Andrea:
I've heard two men recently refer to "Mitusa" as a fabulous oral technique to use on a woman, but they were reluctant to explain it. What is it and why the secrecy?
Love,
Dying To Know
Dear Dying:
Maybe they don't know themselves what it means? I never do. Read more »