My girlfriend is really into BDSM. At first I tried and played a convincing (I think) top/dom, but it just wasn't hot for me, so I looked some stuff up to get inspired. As I was reading/watching, I would really get off on it, but the sex with my girlfriend still wasn't hot. Then I realized that when I was masturbating to all this, I was fantasizing about subbing. Oops. I am way in love with my girlfriend, but she is a bottom, period. She might switch it around if it meant a lot to me, but I would know that it wasn't really making her happy. Read more »
I've been dating a beautiful girl, and I mean she is hot. The problem? She's really jealous and we fight all the time. I can't look at another girl. She is incredibly possessive and wants to be involved in every element of my life.
I've never had any sort of sexual problems before, but I'm having problems orgasming. We have sex all the time. It's never boring; she has an amazing body and is a great lay. But I just don't come. I have no problems coming on my own. Read more »
About getting past my gag reflex while giving blow jobs: I have no idea what's the best way to practice this. I've tried bananas, but honestly that was just weird. I never bothered trying to deep-throat my ex because he was happy with a hand job. The new boyfriend has expressed much interest in it, and I think trying to deep-throat without practice first would be really awful. Any books on this? Recommended dildos? Read more »
Dear Andrea: You once ran from a letter from "Stretch," who was interested in stretching his scrotum. As someone with naturally occurring low-hangers, let me just say they seem to have minds of their own, finding their ways into the most unexpected places. A playful smack on the ass from my boyfriend can leave me writhing in agony. Even sitting can be risky. I don't see any advantage to having low-hangers, unless, of course, Stretch finds them aesthetically more pleasing than more traditional balls. Read more »
Dear Andrea: When my husband and I first got together in our mid 40s 10 years ago, he was fairly adventurous in bed, and I'm sure you saw this coming, but now the sex is really boring. No spontaneity, nothing different than intercourse, no passion. It's like brushing your teeth — a necessary nuisance — except it gets the sheets dirty.Read more »
It's easy to find reliable stats on penis size, but is there anything out there on average vaginal width and depth? I know: The vagina isn't a constant size, it expands with arousal, etc., but the same could be said of penises, and lab-coated experts have managed to measure them. I've tried to measure with a dildo, and been surprised to notice that even at my most aroused, I can only get it about five inches in. Is this unusually shallow?Read more »
I'm a girl. I take Zoloft. It lowers my sex drive, and when I do get horny it takes forever to come. I want to experiment with Viagra. My friend is afraid it might be dangerous. I say, "If Andrea N. and Violet Blue have tried it, I can too!" Who's right?