The letter from "Forty and Frustrated" a few weeks back got a lot of interest and at least one excellent suggestion (go out alone) from a woman who has had success following her own advice. Excellent! I also heard from "F&F's" male counterpart (and no, sorry, I can't match them up), and here's what we're going to do: We're going to read this and figure out what's wrong and come up with a better approach. Together. Here goes:
I'm a 44-year-old guy, single for most of my life. Read more »
These are perennial body parts questions, and I feel I would be somewhat remiss if I didn't re-answer them every few years. Here are some that have been hanging around waiting for me.
I once tried for half an hour putting my index finger about two inches inside my girlfriend's vagina, pressing with a "come hither motion" and simultaneously pressing the mound from outside. Read more »
I'm ready to go live in a cave. It's been two years since I've dated. Partly I backed off from the scene, and partly I'm not receiving much interest. I think I'm smart, approachable, creative, "together," nice, and passably cute. It's starting to affect my self-confidence.
I joined eHarmony ($120!) and nerve.com, solicited friends' input on my profiles, and followed up on every match. I got one eHarmony date (great but not local) and rarely heard back from anyone. I try to e-mail one guy a day. Read more »
It's a dull, drippy week in California and when the weather gets like this a writer's fancy turns to tentacles.
Manifestly untrue, I know, but mine did. Recently while researching something else (the famous Sybian ride-on sex toy, the one whose dealer claims it will "cause a female to literally explode on it" I hate it when that happens!) I came upon a repository of tentacle porn, and boy did that take me back. Read more »
I am a 39-year-old straight woman having the time of my life with sex. I have two questions for you.
First, my current somewhat exclusive (28-year-old hottie irrelevant, I'm just braggin') sex partner and I both know that nothing that touches the anus should then touch the vagina without washing first. Read more »
Dear Andrea: My boyfriend and I have talked about doing a threesome with another woman I'm actually the one who really wants to, but he does too. Since we can't think of anyone we know who would work, we are thinking of placing a classified ad online. I've never done anything like this before, and was just wondering if you have any advice, like how to make it go smoothly and not be weird. Also, do you really think dental dams are necessary to make sure we don't get diseases from her? Read more »
During sexual intercourse, what techniques can the woman do with her vagina to make sex feel really good for the man?
Why is this question making me laugh? I'm afraid it might be I'm almost positive it is the indelibly etched sequence from an early South Park episode, the one where Winona Ryder shoots ping-pong balls ... well, maybe you had to have been there. Read more »
I went for a test and the nurse found a genital wart. I have had more than 20 sexual partners and enjoy casual sex occasionally, but I always use condoms (plus the pill, just in case). I feel embarrassed, like I've been irresponsible, but I thought I was protecting myself thoroughly. How can I get over this and feel OK about sex again? And are there ways to keep from getting another wart?
A few weeks ago, while I was writing about the sensation created by the release of the "bonding hormone" oxytocin at orgasm, I attracted the attention of a dear friend and major geek, whom we will call Bill. His wife is, um, Bachael. "Bachael and I have long been fans of the "warm gooey" feelings (as you so aptly described them) created by sex," wrote Bill. "Turns out: you can get these feelings from your partner cooking you a really, really good meal, too. Read more »