Have you ever read Geek Love (Random House, 1983) by Katherine Dunn? It's a love it/hate it kind of thing that was very popular among a certain segment (now called "hipsters," I guess) and it begins, unforgettably, "When your mama was the geek, my dreamlets ... " Don't ask me why, but I'm having an apparently irresistible urge to call you, the readers, "my dreamlets" today. So:
This is not good news, but neither is it as dismal as it might first appear. Read more »
I am a happily married man (16 years). My wife and I's lives are pretty good. But I have a recurring fantasy about swapping with a couple who are our friends. We flirt and play around (no touching) but we have skinny-dipped, flashed our parts, etc. What I can't figure out is why I want to do more. Thinking about it turns me on a lot. I have spoken to my wife about it in a general way but never mentioned it to our friends and she typically just laughs. Read more »
I'm a 36-year-old woman who's been married for nine years. Last year a routine annual exam led to several other tests that led to a diagnosis of early-stage cervical cancer. I had a hysterectomy and will most likely not need any other treatment.
I'm past the initial shock of this, but now there is something I'm wondering about. I have not been tested for human papillomavirus, but I am told that I have it since that's what caused the cervical cancer. Should I be contacting exes to notify them of this? Shou Read more »
This is probably the only time the Alt Sex column will cover the same territory as my new venture, a nice, moderately wholesome blog about kiddie consumer culture (www.gogetyourjacket.com). Read more »
I'm confused. Are there any guys out there who aren't at the extremes as far as sex goes? My ex-boyfriend was completely obsessed. Not only did he want it four or more times a day, he'd want to have phone sex at least twice a day when we were apart. I think of myself as a pretty sexual person, but even I have my limits. (Plus, I think phone sex is boring. Read more »
I've had a seemingly endless stream of these beginner SM questions lately. So while I'm on break, I thought I'd run this one (originally printed 6/13/07), which could have been written in response to several of them. Carry on!
I just saw Secretary yesterday, then read your column that mentions the same movie and similar sentiment ["Thwang," 5/30/07]. Read more »
I am a 21-year-old college student and am looking for boys about my age to have sex with. But whenever I approach one, I end the conversation with absolutely no idea if he is interested. The signals are so mixed, they cancel each other out. A lot of the time, a boy will avoid eye contact, keeping his arms folded and swallowing a lot, then ask if I'd like to get coffee sometime. If I do something extremely forward, like touch his arm and leer, it's like I pulled out a gun. Read more »
I broke up with my boyfriend when he moved to another city after a short but intense relationship. Since then, we've visited each other regularly and continued having a sexual relationship. I've been fancying/dating/shagging other people for basically the whole time. But now he's started expressing interest in another girl and I'm jealous, though I'm trying not to let him know.
Greetings. At the tender age of 12, I discovered my father's porn collection and the joys of masturbation. At 14, I can remember inserting my parents' dildos up my anal cavity. Now I often will look at transsexual or bisexual pornography and enjoy it thoroughly until the point of ejaculation, but afterward I'm somewhat disgusted with myself. Read more »